The Challenge: Handling Divorce on Your Own
Let’s look at Emma’s situation. She was stuck because her partner, John, wouldn’t answer any letters from her lawyer and kept all the financial information secret. Emma used to take care of all their paperwork, but now she had to figure out the divorce all by herself, without much money and without any help from John.
Imagine being in Emma’s situation, dealing with someone like John who ignores all attempts to sort things out and hides important financial details. You’re left to deal with the divorce alone, with little money. It’s a tough spot many people find themselves in, where the person they shared everything with is now making things harder. This situation is, sadly, extremely common. It can feel completely isolating, particularly when you are struggling with children, work and your own heartbreak at the end of your marriage.
How I Help as Your Divorce Coach
I became a divorce coach after experiencing the isolation of managing a difficult divorce, supporting two children and being on an extremely tight budget. As your divorce coach, I’m here to help guide you through this with personal knowledge gained from hard experience, professional training and insights from 25 years of supporting individuals and families through life’s transitions.
For Emma, I helped her find the right legal advice and make a plan that didn’t use up all her money. We worked together to find a better way than just fighting through lawyers, which would have been expensive and ultimately unsuccessful.
My role is to support you emotionally and help you get the information you need to make smart choices. We look at all the ways to solve the problem without wasting your money and ensuring you get a fair deal. We consider your support team, who you will need to speak with for information and support, and what you will need to know; I explain the process and how you can learn what you will need to know to face this challenge.
Becoming Stronger and Clearer
During our coaching sessions, Emma started to see things more clearly. By applying for a Financial Order, the court made John share the financial information. The process which can be difficult, was able to get John to engage and provide information, which then gave Emma the power to make more informed decisions. It was a big step for her, making her feel stronger and more in control.
No one wants to go through the court process, however, in this case, going to court allowed Emma to get the information she needed without a lengthy exchange of solicitor’s letters. Emma was forced to do much of the process herself with me pointing out resources she could access for help with form filling. Together, I helped Emma structure specific questions for her solicitor to answer, keeping her costs, low. Emma said that by doing her own paperwork, she got a better handle of her financial situation and what she would need to live and create a home for herself and her children following her divorce. The plan was to allow Emma to get the information and tools she needed, allowing her to deal with the legal procedures and feel empowered and informed.
A New Beginning
For Emma, this journey wasn’t just about ending her marriage. It was about becoming a stronger person. She learned how to stand up for herself and gained the confidence to handle future challenges.
My aim is to support all my clients through a similar change. Understanding their finances and learning to negotiate fairly to make you feel more confident and ready to stand up for yourself.
What You’ll Learn
Having someone to guide you is key. I’m here to support you with emotional overwhelm, provide practical tools and suggestions, and, most importantly, help you plan throughout the whole process.
– Knowing more makes you stronger: Understanding how divorce works removes the fear and lets you make smart choices.
– Taking back control: This journey is more than just ending a marriage; it’s a chance to regain control of your life.
In Summary
Emma’s story shows how, with the right support and information, turning a difficult divorce into a chance for growth is possible. As your divorce coach, I’m committed to helping you through this challenging time, ensuring you come out stronger and ready for a new start. With help you can face the challenges, aiming for a fair outcome while building your confidence for the future.
